Emotions
One of the ways we can stop fighting and start looking at solutions to problems (personal and worldwide) is to:
1) Communicate better and Listen to actually hear where the other person/side/group is coming from
2) Empower ourselves and accept others
3) See both sides of what each person/being wants
4) Understand and see through emotions and "negativity" (and be powerful enough to not let it affect us)
5) Find Solutions that leave both sides as happy as possible in their own version of happiness
Emotions, problems, and negativity are often instantly dismissed, shunned, and seen as "bad"
However, the World Church sees that emotions are not good or bad and do not make a person good or bad. Rather, that emotions are here for humans for a reason, and humans were created complete with all the emotions we need.
The Church sees that:
Complaints are opportunities.
Imagine you are complaining your feet are hot. This is the perfect time to spot an opportunity. Imagine you then create a rubber, peel off spray that keeps feet from being hot and make millions of dollars. Rather than run from complaints, the Church asks that we look at complaints in an opportunity oriented, solution solving way.
Negativity:
Negativity is often hiding a deep complaint, which can be looked at for opportunity, or is a signal of another emotion.
Rather than be frightened of negativity, the Church asks that we see through it to the base root emotion that is there.
If someone is acting depressed, they might be saying "I need attention, I just need you to love me" or they might be saying "I'm scared of life, I'm afraid to be happy" They even might be saying "I want to be depressed, I'm enjoying this emotion of life, let me do it." We will not know what is actually happening, until we understand how to not be affected by "negative" emotions, and until we become able to ask questions so we can see through to what is really happening.
If we do not learn this, we will simply keep blindly reacting to these "negative" events, possibly loosing out on potentially enriching relationships, or reacting by harming our own lives and that of others. We might be incapable of not only appreciating these "negative" events, but we will remain powerless and affected by them. (This is not to say that if you can not deal with a "negative" event or person, to stay around them. Sometimes leaving or turning away helps you find your strength.)
When we or someone else is angry, we can be empowered enough to not react in anger, but to notice that the person is feeling extremely harmed, wounded, hurt. We notice that the person is feeling powerless and has a complaint they feel is not being heard or addressed. If you find yourself angry, and no one is recognizing or caring that you are hurt, you might wish to notice that you are feeling powerless, and empowering the person you are upset with. Some people know what they are doing, and will harm you to make you angry on purpose. Do you want to let these people make you destroy your own life?
If the person does not INTEND to harm you (which is usually the case as they do not know what upsets you or doesn't) then, you can control yourself and express your anger to the person quietly as pain, like this 'you have really hurt me by saying that, and here is why'
If you see that another person is angry, you can often cool it down by seeing how they are actually hurt. Perhaps they are screaming because they feel like they are not being heard. What might help is calmly repeating to them in your own words what you think they are saying. It often makes someone stop feeling the need to be louder, (yell) if they feel "heard."
You might also say calmly, "Are you hurt because you care what I think, or do you just hate me?" Questions like this see "THROUGH" the anger and negativity, to the deeper expression of a person saying "you are powerful, you hurt me, I love you." In such a case, we might start to be grateful that the person cares enough to be angry rather than cold and uncaring.
The angered person might also, however, be saying "I'm spoiled, and I am demanding too much." It's important to see through what is called "negativity" to find out what is really going on, to find the solution. If we do not know what is actually happening, see through the emotions and start asking, we will never be able to solve situations nor stop fighting, which might be critical to the survival of our nuclear species soon.
1) Communicate better and Listen to actually hear where the other person/side/group is coming from
2) Empower ourselves and accept others
3) See both sides of what each person/being wants
4) Understand and see through emotions and "negativity" (and be powerful enough to not let it affect us)
5) Find Solutions that leave both sides as happy as possible in their own version of happiness
Emotions, problems, and negativity are often instantly dismissed, shunned, and seen as "bad"
However, the World Church sees that emotions are not good or bad and do not make a person good or bad. Rather, that emotions are here for humans for a reason, and humans were created complete with all the emotions we need.
The Church sees that:
Complaints are opportunities.
Imagine you are complaining your feet are hot. This is the perfect time to spot an opportunity. Imagine you then create a rubber, peel off spray that keeps feet from being hot and make millions of dollars. Rather than run from complaints, the Church asks that we look at complaints in an opportunity oriented, solution solving way.
Negativity:
Negativity is often hiding a deep complaint, which can be looked at for opportunity, or is a signal of another emotion.
Rather than be frightened of negativity, the Church asks that we see through it to the base root emotion that is there.
If someone is acting depressed, they might be saying "I need attention, I just need you to love me" or they might be saying "I'm scared of life, I'm afraid to be happy" They even might be saying "I want to be depressed, I'm enjoying this emotion of life, let me do it." We will not know what is actually happening, until we understand how to not be affected by "negative" emotions, and until we become able to ask questions so we can see through to what is really happening.
If we do not learn this, we will simply keep blindly reacting to these "negative" events, possibly loosing out on potentially enriching relationships, or reacting by harming our own lives and that of others. We might be incapable of not only appreciating these "negative" events, but we will remain powerless and affected by them. (This is not to say that if you can not deal with a "negative" event or person, to stay around them. Sometimes leaving or turning away helps you find your strength.)
When we or someone else is angry, we can be empowered enough to not react in anger, but to notice that the person is feeling extremely harmed, wounded, hurt. We notice that the person is feeling powerless and has a complaint they feel is not being heard or addressed. If you find yourself angry, and no one is recognizing or caring that you are hurt, you might wish to notice that you are feeling powerless, and empowering the person you are upset with. Some people know what they are doing, and will harm you to make you angry on purpose. Do you want to let these people make you destroy your own life?
If the person does not INTEND to harm you (which is usually the case as they do not know what upsets you or doesn't) then, you can control yourself and express your anger to the person quietly as pain, like this 'you have really hurt me by saying that, and here is why'
If you see that another person is angry, you can often cool it down by seeing how they are actually hurt. Perhaps they are screaming because they feel like they are not being heard. What might help is calmly repeating to them in your own words what you think they are saying. It often makes someone stop feeling the need to be louder, (yell) if they feel "heard."
You might also say calmly, "Are you hurt because you care what I think, or do you just hate me?" Questions like this see "THROUGH" the anger and negativity, to the deeper expression of a person saying "you are powerful, you hurt me, I love you." In such a case, we might start to be grateful that the person cares enough to be angry rather than cold and uncaring.
The angered person might also, however, be saying "I'm spoiled, and I am demanding too much." It's important to see through what is called "negativity" to find out what is really going on, to find the solution. If we do not know what is actually happening, see through the emotions and start asking, we will never be able to solve situations nor stop fighting, which might be critical to the survival of our nuclear species soon.