Jealousy
The Church does not see Jealousy, or Envy, to be a sin. In fact it is such a huge problem during the time of the formation of the Church, that it deserves its own entire page for analysis. (The Church is also producing a children's show in which Mrs. Love teaches the children what Jealousy is and some methods to handle it).
Jealousy is the pained expression of admiration or want.
If you do not feel great about yourself and see a very handsome person, you may feel jealous of them. Actually you are admiring the person and think they are GREAT. It only comes out as pain because you think YOU are NOT GREAT. Working on seeing yourself differently or changing to be more like what you admire can help with this.
Envy of other's possessions is much the same. Firstly, the Church was formed in a society where the economy is based on HAVING and KEEPING, and the most esteemed people have and keep the most stuff and the most money. It wasn't always this way. Anthropology, one of the most important disciplines, teaches us that in other cultures things were different from our own, and even completely opposite from our own. It is important to preserve anthropological information so that we are never told "it has to be this way, there is no other way" or "it's like this because of nature." Doing this can keep someone trapped and miserable in a cult-ure and method of life that brings them pure misery with no knowledge of anything different (because can be very hard to know of something you don't know of, and to formulate brand new ideas.)
With that in mind, the Northwest Native American cultures (though not perfect by our current standards) were involved in a GIVING economy. The way it worked is everyone gave away everything they had. The most esteemed people were the ones who could give away the most, keep the least, and who owned the least. This worked because EVERYONE in their economy did it, just like EVERYONE in the economy the Church is in, is participating in keeping, holding, and often, stealing. SO, the same kind of ENVY of other's possession of objects (such as a fancy car) would not even exist in another culture which did not operate like ours, making the patriarch Christian attacks on Envy a MOOT POINT. In other words, in a culture not based on such a religion and economic culture would not need to demonize Envy as a sin, because it just wouldn't exist as such, in that culture.
But back to our own culture. We DO currently live in such a having taking and holding culture that Envy can breed in. The Church is striving for a more Utopian world where ALL HAVE, and ALL ARE RICH, so hopefully this entire section will not be relevant to the future. For now, the Church advises that the best way to deal with ENVY is these two methods:
1) If you feel Envy, simply look into yourself and think "Hm, how can I get that, how can I achieve that?" Then strive for it. If you see a house with a pool, and envy it, learn the steps it will take to get yourself a house with a pool, then set your feet on step one of that path until one day you have a pool.
2) If it is a goal you feel is impossible, remember the Church's advise that there are pros and cons to every life and every thing. Think deeply about the CONS of what you are envious of or want. WHAT are the drawbacks to having a pool? There could be numerous drawbacks. One has to clean it, That is no easy chore. If you don't clean it, you need to earn extra money to pay someone to clean it. You have extra danger of kids or animals falling into it and drowning. You might have more robberies in your house as scouting robbers might think you are richer than the surrounding houses . You will have extra work taking care of it pulling the cover over it and extra work taking care of ANY possession actually, especially FANCY possessions. (Did you ever wonder why a lot of rich people become minimalists? They learn this lesson; that with more STUFF comes more RESPONSIBILITY and MORE WORK.) Now that you have all the CONS to having what you envy in your mind, perhaps you can let it go, and instead decide to just enjoy the times that you get to use such a possession of others, cost free. In other words, perhaps you envy someone's luxury car but you realize that even paying for the tires will make you have to work three times harder, so you instead decide to just enjoy it when your friend takes you for a ride it it; for that ride was literally, responsibility and cost free for you, whereas your friend has to do all the extra work and worrying to upkeep it. The Church itself enjoys taking leisurely strolls amongst houses and neighborhoods in which she can't afford the houses there herself; but she gets to enjoy the sights and feel of the houses all the same, WITHOUT ANY EXPENSE TO HERSELF.
Jealousy is the pained expression of admiration or want.
If you do not feel great about yourself and see a very handsome person, you may feel jealous of them. Actually you are admiring the person and think they are GREAT. It only comes out as pain because you think YOU are NOT GREAT. Working on seeing yourself differently or changing to be more like what you admire can help with this.
Envy of other's possessions is much the same. Firstly, the Church was formed in a society where the economy is based on HAVING and KEEPING, and the most esteemed people have and keep the most stuff and the most money. It wasn't always this way. Anthropology, one of the most important disciplines, teaches us that in other cultures things were different from our own, and even completely opposite from our own. It is important to preserve anthropological information so that we are never told "it has to be this way, there is no other way" or "it's like this because of nature." Doing this can keep someone trapped and miserable in a cult-ure and method of life that brings them pure misery with no knowledge of anything different (because can be very hard to know of something you don't know of, and to formulate brand new ideas.)
With that in mind, the Northwest Native American cultures (though not perfect by our current standards) were involved in a GIVING economy. The way it worked is everyone gave away everything they had. The most esteemed people were the ones who could give away the most, keep the least, and who owned the least. This worked because EVERYONE in their economy did it, just like EVERYONE in the economy the Church is in, is participating in keeping, holding, and often, stealing. SO, the same kind of ENVY of other's possession of objects (such as a fancy car) would not even exist in another culture which did not operate like ours, making the patriarch Christian attacks on Envy a MOOT POINT. In other words, in a culture not based on such a religion and economic culture would not need to demonize Envy as a sin, because it just wouldn't exist as such, in that culture.
But back to our own culture. We DO currently live in such a having taking and holding culture that Envy can breed in. The Church is striving for a more Utopian world where ALL HAVE, and ALL ARE RICH, so hopefully this entire section will not be relevant to the future. For now, the Church advises that the best way to deal with ENVY is these two methods:
1) If you feel Envy, simply look into yourself and think "Hm, how can I get that, how can I achieve that?" Then strive for it. If you see a house with a pool, and envy it, learn the steps it will take to get yourself a house with a pool, then set your feet on step one of that path until one day you have a pool.
2) If it is a goal you feel is impossible, remember the Church's advise that there are pros and cons to every life and every thing. Think deeply about the CONS of what you are envious of or want. WHAT are the drawbacks to having a pool? There could be numerous drawbacks. One has to clean it, That is no easy chore. If you don't clean it, you need to earn extra money to pay someone to clean it. You have extra danger of kids or animals falling into it and drowning. You might have more robberies in your house as scouting robbers might think you are richer than the surrounding houses . You will have extra work taking care of it pulling the cover over it and extra work taking care of ANY possession actually, especially FANCY possessions. (Did you ever wonder why a lot of rich people become minimalists? They learn this lesson; that with more STUFF comes more RESPONSIBILITY and MORE WORK.) Now that you have all the CONS to having what you envy in your mind, perhaps you can let it go, and instead decide to just enjoy the times that you get to use such a possession of others, cost free. In other words, perhaps you envy someone's luxury car but you realize that even paying for the tires will make you have to work three times harder, so you instead decide to just enjoy it when your friend takes you for a ride it it; for that ride was literally, responsibility and cost free for you, whereas your friend has to do all the extra work and worrying to upkeep it. The Church itself enjoys taking leisurely strolls amongst houses and neighborhoods in which she can't afford the houses there herself; but she gets to enjoy the sights and feel of the houses all the same, WITHOUT ANY EXPENSE TO HERSELF.
Balance in Equitous and Iniquitous Relationships
JEALOUSY IN RELATIONSHIPS
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**Everything the Church says may only be in relation to the society in which She was raised and founded the Church in. Society may change radically making this information a moot point. However, the information of the Church should be saved for anthropological use and in case this society arises again.
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Jealousy in relationships is destructing our world and society and causing us to harm others.
As the Church sees it, the Patriarchs installed an unfair system amongst the genders and this was done partly because their world is based on hierarchies of slavery, because of their economic system of having, holding and keeping, which creates their self-esteem and ability to do things. They never try for another society in which ALL HAVE, and which things can still be done but in a different way (like with non sentient robot helpers) possibly because their self esteem is based on their items and a number in their bank account, and they have not conceived of a way to achieve what they want without a slave hierarchy structure.
Whoever rules and owns this current system is more than happy to watch people "under" them destruct themselves and their own relationships. This keeps you powerless and not a threat to them. They create mass racism, sexism, and classism to achieve this goal. Do you want them, or the people who have done you wrong, to be "right" about you, and to laugh when you self destruct? Or would you rather success and your own happiness be your revenge?
*Success and happiness leads to more of it and will be like a virus infection spreading across the entire world, changing the entire world into a better place.
When the people and workers fight each other, those in power stay in power, because humans are a co-dependent species who need each other, and need each other to create any kind of wealth, power, business, or structure with merit. People with powerful, trusting relationships could endanger or compete with the current wealth and power holders, and even change society completely; forcing the "top" to face their own issues of self esteem, or causing them to loose the ability to do anything they want to others (even possibly sadistic things)*. They also may feel that there is no solution for how they have been operating, and they may wish to keep things this way out of fear of no knowledge or thought of a different way which might be even pleasing to they themselves.
The Church is here to assuage that fear and assure everybody that we CAN strive for a society in which ALL are happy and ALL are getting what they want; regardless of what it is, there is a future solution to it; yes, even to those whom are in power now. It might even be better for them, then. Have they tried it out? How do you know? We can always return to this way of existence if it isn't working out. :-)
Now, as for Jealousy which is currently in our relationships due to the way that we were taught to think about ourselves and relationships:
Some men may dislike a woman who gets jealous and some have even said cruel things about her reaction (as he was being cruel to her) like "take your meds" or "you're such drama so emotional."
This shows a lack of understanding of the other side's position and lack of care about their care. Some men don't feel this way.
Once, a decently rich and famous man told the church : "If a woman doesn’t get jealous over who I’m looking at and maybe liking, I feel she doesn’t love or like me at all; she's just chasing me for money." (or perhaps she just wants other men too? Or perhaps she just wants a non human ape of a man with no feelings.)
He actually LIKED when girls would get jealous over him, when other men would have thought that this was a rotten girl who deserved to be trashed.
The Church as a girl could also say the same thing: "if a man doesn't get jealous over other guys looks and who I am looking at and maybe liking, I feel he doesn't love me, he’s just too busy staring at other chicks to give a crap to feel nervous to loose me or feel “less than” in my eyes, or he’s using me for money, or he thinks I am a “possession” and who cares what the vase thinks, he only cares what other dudes think, which also means he thinks I’m a sub human ornament or object, not someone he loves, but someTHING he loves for himself (basically he only loves himself) like you can love a toilet seat you CRAP on."
(Here is a nice case of "opposite but same" as expressed on the Yin Yang page) :-)
Both men and women (and other genders) get put down for being Jealous. But in the Church's eyes there is nothing wrong with being jealous or envious and it is not a sin; it is something to learn about and to be dealt with.
It can be taken as an annoyance or an insult.
If it was Brad Pitt (etc) getting jealous over the woman who "doesn't like jealous men," she would probably suddenly LOVE IT. The possessiveness she didn't want in another man would suddenly be a huge turn on and compliment.
Likewise, if it was Britney Spears (etc) getting jealous over who a guy was looking at , suddenly he would LOVE that about her and feel top of the world , not say things like “I don’t understand why you’re upset. Chill b*tch, take your meds b*tch!”
One man might get infuriated at a girl who gets jealous and put her down for it, while another man might say to that same girl, very complimented and turned on 'Aye mama, you looks so cute when you're mad and jealous, your cheeks puff up and turn pink!"
So while both jealous men and jealous women get put down, the Church sees it as a matter of them just needing to get together and be balanced in their level of jealousy and how they feel about things that could cause jealousy, to be similar. IF both are similarly jealous of the same things, they will be like the snakes of balance; both the same, both equally powerful to hurt each other, until they both understand each other, drop the hissing, the stand off ends, they kiss and a heart forms in the middle between them.
Sometimes, a partner can PRETEND NOT to care how the other thinks, so as to KEEP the other hurting partner, powerless and hurting (and or because they were told by others not to have that feeling of jealousy, they lie and pretend like it doesn't hurt them). When they act like they don’t care, not only can it explode out in other, very unhealthy ways, but it creates an unfair iniquitous relationship, which can be very painful for a person who does not like or want that. Some people like being in the subjugated position, the unfaired against position, but others do not, and the Church sees many people getting into relationships they do not actually even want to be in, for various reasons like: societal or peer/parental pressure, money or security, to have children, "settling" or low self esteem (not going after who and what they really want), or other.
The Church does not feel this is healthy to be in relationships that bring you misery and will not be conducive to making the world a better place, because HAPPY people want to harm others less. Happy people don't want to break the happiness for unhappiness and misery and suffering; unhappy people are more likely to give into their sadistic side and be unfairly cruel to the undeserving, perpetuating the cycle of abuse we are currently stuck in here. Happy people are more likely to create the things that make a better world instead of fighting and crying. The Church hopes you will get yourself into a happy relationship and out of your lying, unhappy relations, to stand up to others for what you want.
Here are a few ways that Jealousy inside of a relationship could be dealt with:
*The church views lack of self control on our inner sadisms as one of the top most destructive things in the search for a utopia and what will lead us to dystopia if we cannot control ourselves; but that if we don't do it, we will be in hell here and stay in hell here.
** In current patriarch (false prophet) churches, the priests are "COLLARED" servants to a "MASTER." This is a male master currently who lords over them, but, originally was a Goddess as is seen by the fact that they all still wear skirts and dresses in an attempt to be as much like the Woman as possible and to Honor Her.
As the Church sees it, the Patriarchs installed an unfair system amongst the genders and this was done partly because their world is based on hierarchies of slavery, because of their economic system of having, holding and keeping, which creates their self-esteem and ability to do things. They never try for another society in which ALL HAVE, and which things can still be done but in a different way (like with non sentient robot helpers) possibly because their self esteem is based on their items and a number in their bank account, and they have not conceived of a way to achieve what they want without a slave hierarchy structure.
Whoever rules and owns this current system is more than happy to watch people "under" them destruct themselves and their own relationships. This keeps you powerless and not a threat to them. They create mass racism, sexism, and classism to achieve this goal. Do you want them, or the people who have done you wrong, to be "right" about you, and to laugh when you self destruct? Or would you rather success and your own happiness be your revenge?
*Success and happiness leads to more of it and will be like a virus infection spreading across the entire world, changing the entire world into a better place.
When the people and workers fight each other, those in power stay in power, because humans are a co-dependent species who need each other, and need each other to create any kind of wealth, power, business, or structure with merit. People with powerful, trusting relationships could endanger or compete with the current wealth and power holders, and even change society completely; forcing the "top" to face their own issues of self esteem, or causing them to loose the ability to do anything they want to others (even possibly sadistic things)*. They also may feel that there is no solution for how they have been operating, and they may wish to keep things this way out of fear of no knowledge or thought of a different way which might be even pleasing to they themselves.
The Church is here to assuage that fear and assure everybody that we CAN strive for a society in which ALL are happy and ALL are getting what they want; regardless of what it is, there is a future solution to it; yes, even to those whom are in power now. It might even be better for them, then. Have they tried it out? How do you know? We can always return to this way of existence if it isn't working out. :-)
Now, as for Jealousy which is currently in our relationships due to the way that we were taught to think about ourselves and relationships:
Some men may dislike a woman who gets jealous and some have even said cruel things about her reaction (as he was being cruel to her) like "take your meds" or "you're such drama so emotional."
This shows a lack of understanding of the other side's position and lack of care about their care. Some men don't feel this way.
Once, a decently rich and famous man told the church : "If a woman doesn’t get jealous over who I’m looking at and maybe liking, I feel she doesn’t love or like me at all; she's just chasing me for money." (or perhaps she just wants other men too? Or perhaps she just wants a non human ape of a man with no feelings.)
He actually LIKED when girls would get jealous over him, when other men would have thought that this was a rotten girl who deserved to be trashed.
The Church as a girl could also say the same thing: "if a man doesn't get jealous over other guys looks and who I am looking at and maybe liking, I feel he doesn't love me, he’s just too busy staring at other chicks to give a crap to feel nervous to loose me or feel “less than” in my eyes, or he’s using me for money, or he thinks I am a “possession” and who cares what the vase thinks, he only cares what other dudes think, which also means he thinks I’m a sub human ornament or object, not someone he loves, but someTHING he loves for himself (basically he only loves himself) like you can love a toilet seat you CRAP on."
(Here is a nice case of "opposite but same" as expressed on the Yin Yang page) :-)
Both men and women (and other genders) get put down for being Jealous. But in the Church's eyes there is nothing wrong with being jealous or envious and it is not a sin; it is something to learn about and to be dealt with.
It can be taken as an annoyance or an insult.
If it was Brad Pitt (etc) getting jealous over the woman who "doesn't like jealous men," she would probably suddenly LOVE IT. The possessiveness she didn't want in another man would suddenly be a huge turn on and compliment.
Likewise, if it was Britney Spears (etc) getting jealous over who a guy was looking at , suddenly he would LOVE that about her and feel top of the world , not say things like “I don’t understand why you’re upset. Chill b*tch, take your meds b*tch!”
One man might get infuriated at a girl who gets jealous and put her down for it, while another man might say to that same girl, very complimented and turned on 'Aye mama, you looks so cute when you're mad and jealous, your cheeks puff up and turn pink!"
So while both jealous men and jealous women get put down, the Church sees it as a matter of them just needing to get together and be balanced in their level of jealousy and how they feel about things that could cause jealousy, to be similar. IF both are similarly jealous of the same things, they will be like the snakes of balance; both the same, both equally powerful to hurt each other, until they both understand each other, drop the hissing, the stand off ends, they kiss and a heart forms in the middle between them.
Sometimes, a partner can PRETEND NOT to care how the other thinks, so as to KEEP the other hurting partner, powerless and hurting (and or because they were told by others not to have that feeling of jealousy, they lie and pretend like it doesn't hurt them). When they act like they don’t care, not only can it explode out in other, very unhealthy ways, but it creates an unfair iniquitous relationship, which can be very painful for a person who does not like or want that. Some people like being in the subjugated position, the unfaired against position, but others do not, and the Church sees many people getting into relationships they do not actually even want to be in, for various reasons like: societal or peer/parental pressure, money or security, to have children, "settling" or low self esteem (not going after who and what they really want), or other.
The Church does not feel this is healthy to be in relationships that bring you misery and will not be conducive to making the world a better place, because HAPPY people want to harm others less. Happy people don't want to break the happiness for unhappiness and misery and suffering; unhappy people are more likely to give into their sadistic side and be unfairly cruel to the undeserving, perpetuating the cycle of abuse we are currently stuck in here. Happy people are more likely to create the things that make a better world instead of fighting and crying. The Church hopes you will get yourself into a happy relationship and out of your lying, unhappy relations, to stand up to others for what you want.
Here are a few ways that Jealousy inside of a relationship could be dealt with:
- BALANCE: obtain a partner who feels as jealous as you do in as close to the exact same, but opposite ways as you as possible. (if the exact same is impossible to find, then something equally hurtful but not quite the same, may suffice.) Then, when your partner is jealous, remind them that they do it to you too. One could say to a jealous girl “this is EXACTLY HOW YOU make me feel, when I see you look at a hot man.” Remind her or him that you like them, and that they have equal power to make you feel equally crappy, and that they need to also remind you of that when YOU are feeling the jealous burn. Communicating often and telling them about why you also have it bad can often help the person to not feel powerless, and to feel less "unfaired" against and less insecure, to know that they have a hold over you, too, as equally as you do over them. This could end up resulting in a real and desired by both parties, monogamous relationship with someone you find very special who understands you ultimately and cares about your feelings, even likes and appreciates them.
- LOVE: Being in love with someone, you might accept things in them that you didn't accept in others. You might even come to like it, most strangely. This is ok. Don't freak out. It's perfectly normal. Love can change someone and how they see the entire world. Some people might choose to be happy for their partner's happiness, or this might be step 2 after balance is achieved, after the two equally balanced equally powerful strong snakes stop hissing, and kiss. Being happy for another's happiness, the partner might not even mind if their partner kisses another person, has sex with them, or is looking at another person. This is because they love that person so much, that they become happy for their partner's pleasure and happiness. This could result in a polyandrous relationship (one woman who has many men), or many other poly and open type relationships, or just a monogamous relationship with certain open qualities.
- FIND A UNIQUE SITUATION: find a situation that makes you happy and does not trigger your jealousy no matter what others think about it. Perhaps if you are jealous over your partner looking at others and you can't deal with it even in a balanced relationship, you might date a blind person. Despite what others think, you would be very happy and make a blind person very happy :-) If you are very jealous of others over something, find someone who doesn't have that and date them. For instance, perhaps you have no legs and just can't get over the pain and jealousy of seeing your partner walk. Perhaps you can find a person with a missing arm to date, and coordinate doing things together to help each other out in a loving, mutual symbiotic relationship with someone who understands you. Perhaps you would be happy becoming another gender, even though you fully understand that gender's "CONS" (as every gender and life has its major drawbacks). Creativity in thinking about what would make you happy is key here.
- AN INIQUITOUS RELATIONSHIP: despite what others think, at this time of the Church forming, the mainstream cult-ure is participating in BDSM unknowingly, both in their relationships and their religion**. A patriarch point of view pervades, so that the mainstream "accepted normal" relationship and religion is a male dominant one. Many are very happy in this situation. Others are not. It is ok to have a different kind of iniquitous relationship as long as everyone is happy in it. Some might want a female dominant relationship in which her male is chained inside the house not allowed to go outside nor watch porn and see strippers, wearing horse blinders on when he goes out. Such a male might beg for her jealousy, thank her for her anger for it means she cares. He may very well enjoy her wanting him so badly that she actually chains him down. Others like the more typical male dominant relationship (at this time, this is called Vanilla as it is also associated with the "white is good, black is bad" patriarch religions.) In this relationship, the girl is typically cuckolded as she is not allowed to be a "slut" (have sex) but the male is encouraged to be "a stud" and watch porn, see strippers, and stare at girls and often, to sleep with them. The girl may very well enjoy this relationship. Perhaps she feels he is a heterosexual male due to these behaviors. However, for those whom don't associate being heterosexual with the subjugation of women, they may wish to have an equal relationship (see balanced, above), or a different kind of iniquitous relationship such as female dominant or other. There is nothing wrong with an iniquitous relationship if both (all) parties are happy with their place in it, and actually having both the male and the female dominant relationships exist, makes the world balanced in and of itself, and makes things "equal" and "fair". It then just falls for each person to determine do they enjoy being the dominant or the subjugate, and finding a situation like that for themselves. There are other kinds of dominant and submissive relationships with many genders in play, so you could find the one that best makes you happy. For instance, there are what we call gay, bi and other gendered relations; there may be a situation like polygamy where a man wants several women all to himself, or polyandry where a woman wants several men all to herself, or other kinds of relations like a woman (or other) wanting several women (or other) all to themselves. Relationships are not judged by the church other than to ask: does it make you and the other participants, HAPPY? Or are you causing MISERY, SUFFERING, ANGUISH AND PAIN FOR YOURSELF AND OTHERS?
*The church views lack of self control on our inner sadisms as one of the top most destructive things in the search for a utopia and what will lead us to dystopia if we cannot control ourselves; but that if we don't do it, we will be in hell here and stay in hell here.
** In current patriarch (false prophet) churches, the priests are "COLLARED" servants to a "MASTER." This is a male master currently who lords over them, but, originally was a Goddess as is seen by the fact that they all still wear skirts and dresses in an attempt to be as much like the Woman as possible and to Honor Her.
Balance in Iniquity