Unfairness
People often feel life is unfair. While some people enjoy inequity, the sensation of unfairness creates great distress for many.
The Church believes fairness, that it exists. Where fairness does not exist in balance, the Church explores the idea of creating more inequities to balance out previously one sided or imbalanced inequities. Sometimes, we can find fairness in evenly balanced unfairness's, thereby creating fairness without controlling or stopping others.
For instance:
If Jimmy gets a sno-cone one day and Alice doesn't, this is unfair.
But, If Alice gets a sno-cone two days later and Jimmy doesn't, this new unfairness now balances out the first unfairness and creates fairness through the addition of an inequity, without having to stop Jimmy from eating his sno-cone or telling him he is bad.
However, the Church also believes that far less is actually unfair than was previously thought, and education, such as learning about the other side's distresses, may bring a sense of peace to people who are engaged in hatred and jealousy over percieved inequities.
Many people are angry because they feel ways in which they were born, are unfair, such as being handicapped or ugly.
Not all ugly is bad. Not all pretty is good.
For instance:
One might enjoy the sight of an ugly dog. This ugly is not bad to the viewer.
One might feel pain or simply not enjoy the sight of something pretty, or one who is pretty may do something to you that is rotton. Not all pretty is good.
Because we have developed ideas that only certain things are good or bad, we may perceive things as being unfair.
For instance, one might say "But why did God create ugliness, or put me in a wheel chair? I hate God"
However, being ugly may have many advantages. An uglier person may garner less jealousy and be more well liked. They may not focus on their looks as much, and be able to enjoy a better life by concentrating on enjoying things other than their own nose.
Being blind, one might have no pain over body image, and may enjoy touch, smell, and other sense more than sighted people. No one can say for sure, which people have a better quality of life or more happiness.
The Church also believes that, during eternity, we may experience many different sensations and ways of being alive, with different senses or bodies being possible. Therefore, the Church hopes that people will learn to enjoy the bodies they are in now, with all of the perks of that experience.
Also, the Church believes it is each person's responsibility to do with their own situation as they wish to feel better. In other words, if a blind person wishes to attempt to see, but another blind person stands up for having a life without sight, both stances are equally acceptable. If a person decides to enjoy life being ugly whereas another person decides to have cosmetic surgery, both ways are acceptable as the individual's right to choose their own path to their own personal happiness.
DEALING WITH UNFAIRNESS
There are at least three ways to deal with unfairness, whether perceived or real unfairness.
These methods may also be used to deal with someone who VIOLATES YOUR BOUNDARIES
(this means, they do not respect your wishes for yourself or those you love). Perhaps they
have done something harmful.
You can:
1) Turn the other cheek - you may decide that they are not worth your precious life time,
and that obtaining your own success, healing, or other happiness is more worth your time,
or, you may just not wish to be involved in the harm any longer, nor perpetuate any possible
future or further harm. You life may become an example, and you might lead others out of
the situation, and away from the battle, ultimately ending your enemy's victory (which is to
ruin your life), if you choose this method.
2) You can give them what they give (eye for an eye) - sometimes, this is the only way someone
will learn, and you may decide it is worth ruining your precious life time to ensure this offender
gets the lesson. However, beware that sometimes, people still don't even care or learn, even when
you give them exactly what they gave you.
3) See through the action - in some cases, you can actually SEE THROUGH the action to the other
person's side, and work to not only understand them, but to come up with a solution that leaves
both sides as happy as possible. This solution will only work if BOTH sides are willing to come to the
table and work on a solution, drop the fight, and possibly even compromise a little.
The Church believes fairness, that it exists. Where fairness does not exist in balance, the Church explores the idea of creating more inequities to balance out previously one sided or imbalanced inequities. Sometimes, we can find fairness in evenly balanced unfairness's, thereby creating fairness without controlling or stopping others.
For instance:
If Jimmy gets a sno-cone one day and Alice doesn't, this is unfair.
But, If Alice gets a sno-cone two days later and Jimmy doesn't, this new unfairness now balances out the first unfairness and creates fairness through the addition of an inequity, without having to stop Jimmy from eating his sno-cone or telling him he is bad.
However, the Church also believes that far less is actually unfair than was previously thought, and education, such as learning about the other side's distresses, may bring a sense of peace to people who are engaged in hatred and jealousy over percieved inequities.
Many people are angry because they feel ways in which they were born, are unfair, such as being handicapped or ugly.
Not all ugly is bad. Not all pretty is good.
For instance:
One might enjoy the sight of an ugly dog. This ugly is not bad to the viewer.
One might feel pain or simply not enjoy the sight of something pretty, or one who is pretty may do something to you that is rotton. Not all pretty is good.
Because we have developed ideas that only certain things are good or bad, we may perceive things as being unfair.
For instance, one might say "But why did God create ugliness, or put me in a wheel chair? I hate God"
However, being ugly may have many advantages. An uglier person may garner less jealousy and be more well liked. They may not focus on their looks as much, and be able to enjoy a better life by concentrating on enjoying things other than their own nose.
Being blind, one might have no pain over body image, and may enjoy touch, smell, and other sense more than sighted people. No one can say for sure, which people have a better quality of life or more happiness.
The Church also believes that, during eternity, we may experience many different sensations and ways of being alive, with different senses or bodies being possible. Therefore, the Church hopes that people will learn to enjoy the bodies they are in now, with all of the perks of that experience.
Also, the Church believes it is each person's responsibility to do with their own situation as they wish to feel better. In other words, if a blind person wishes to attempt to see, but another blind person stands up for having a life without sight, both stances are equally acceptable. If a person decides to enjoy life being ugly whereas another person decides to have cosmetic surgery, both ways are acceptable as the individual's right to choose their own path to their own personal happiness.
DEALING WITH UNFAIRNESS
There are at least three ways to deal with unfairness, whether perceived or real unfairness.
These methods may also be used to deal with someone who VIOLATES YOUR BOUNDARIES
(this means, they do not respect your wishes for yourself or those you love). Perhaps they
have done something harmful.
You can:
1) Turn the other cheek - you may decide that they are not worth your precious life time,
and that obtaining your own success, healing, or other happiness is more worth your time,
or, you may just not wish to be involved in the harm any longer, nor perpetuate any possible
future or further harm. You life may become an example, and you might lead others out of
the situation, and away from the battle, ultimately ending your enemy's victory (which is to
ruin your life), if you choose this method.
2) You can give them what they give (eye for an eye) - sometimes, this is the only way someone
will learn, and you may decide it is worth ruining your precious life time to ensure this offender
gets the lesson. However, beware that sometimes, people still don't even care or learn, even when
you give them exactly what they gave you.
3) See through the action - in some cases, you can actually SEE THROUGH the action to the other
person's side, and work to not only understand them, but to come up with a solution that leaves
both sides as happy as possible. This solution will only work if BOTH sides are willing to come to the
table and work on a solution, drop the fight, and possibly even compromise a little.