Unfairness
People often feel life is unfair. While some people enjoy inequity, the sensation of unfairness creates great distress for many.
The Church believes in fairness, that it exists. Where fairness does not exist in balance, the Church explores the idea of creating more inequities to balance out previously one sided or imbalanced inequities. Sometimes, we can find fairness in evenly balanced unfairnesses, thereby creating fairness without controlling or stopping others.
For instance:
If Jimmy gets a sno-cone one day and Alice doesn't, this is unfair.
But, If Alice gets a sno-cone two days later and Jimmy doesn't, this new unfairness now balances out the first unfairness and creates fairness through the addition of an inequity, without having to stop Jimmy from eating his sno-cone or telling him he is bad.
However, the Church also believes that far less is actually unfair than was previously thought, and education, such as learning about the other side's distresses, may bring a sense of peace to people who are engaged in hatred and jealousy over perceived inequities.
Many people are angry because they feel ways in which they were born, are unfair, such as being handicapped or ugly.
Not all ugly is bad. Not all pretty is good.
For instance:
One might enjoy the sight of an ugly dog. This ugly is not bad to the viewer.
One might feel pain or simply not enjoy the sight of something pretty, or one who is pretty may do something to you that is rotten. Not all pretty is good.
Because we have developed ideas that only certain things are good or bad, we may perceive things as being unfair.
For instance, one might say "But why did God/ess create ugliness, or put me in a wheel chair? I hate God/ess"
However, being ugly may be good to someone. It may have many advantages. An uglier person may garner less jealousy and be more well liked. They may not focus on their looks as much, and be able to enjoy a better life by concentrating on enjoying things other than their own nose.
Someone in a wheelchair might enjoy a different slower pace of life than people busily rushing around bumping into each other on the street with no caring for each other, and might garner someone with sympathy for them which brings them more love than other people get (These are hypothetical situations to show that we can't just judge perceived unfairness's without knowing an individual's situation).
Being blind, one might have no pain over body image, and may enjoy touch, smell, and other sense more than sighted people who feel pure agony over themselves. Someone who is deaf may feel pleasure in vibrations of the ground and world around them that a hearing person can't even sense. One silly but true thing is, deaf people never have to feel embarrassed about passing loud gas, because no one can hear the fart!
So, one can't say someone should stay stuck in their situation if they don't want to be in it, but at the same time, no one can judge or say for sure, which people have a better quality of life or more happiness. The Church sees that there are pros and cons to every life.
The Church also believes that, during eternity, we may experience many different sensations and ways of being alive, with different senses or bodies being possible. Therefore, the Church hopes that people will learn to enjoy the bodies they are in now, with all of the perks of that experience.
Also, the Church believes it is each person's responsibility to do with their own situation as they wish to feel better. In other words, if a blind person wishes to attempt to see, but another blind person stands up for having a life without sight, both stances are equally acceptable. If a person decides to enjoy life being ugly whereas another person decides to have cosmetic surgery, both ways are acceptable as the individual's right to choose their own path to their own personal happiness.
DEALING WITH UNFAIRNESS
There are at least four ways to deal with unfairness, whether perceived or real unfairness. These methods may also be used to deal with someone who VIOLATES YOUR BOUNDARIES (this means, they do not respect your wishes for yourself or those you love). Perhaps they have done something harmful.
You can:
1) Turn the other cheek - you may decide that they are not worth your precious life time, and that obtaining your own success, healing, or other happiness is more worth your time, or, you may just not wish to be involved in the harm any longer, nor perpetuate any possible future or further harm. You life may become an example, and you might lead others out of the situation, and away from the battle, ultimately ending your enemy's victory (which is to ruin your life), if you choose this method.
2) You can give them what they give (eye for an eye) - sometimes, this is the only way someone will learn, and you may decide it is worth ruining your precious life time to ensure this offender gets the lesson. However, beware that sometimes, people still don't even care or learn, even when you give them exactly what they gave you.
3) See through the action - in some cases, you can actually SEE THROUGH the action to the other person's side, and work to not only understand them, but to come up with a solution that leaves both sides as happy as possible. This solution will only work if BOTH sides are willing to come to the table and work on a solution, drop the fight, and possibly even compromise a little. One might see that anger is actually hurt, in a certain situation, or that the person isn't getting what they want, so you can start to see what THEY are perceiving as unfair, and address that situation somehow perhaps with communication, education, or other.
4) Seek and or create balance - sometimes things ARE fair even when they don's seem to be! Search for how the other side has got problems often in the same exact area you are upset about. IF it isn't there, perhaps you can create an unfairness in that area that works in your favor to create "balance."
Here are two examples of that:
1) Seek and find how the other side has got problems in the same area:
a woman feels jealous that men don't have pain during sex, when she has a lot of it, and did during de-virginizing too. She is very upset until she realizes that:
-men can have pain during sex if the woman twists wrong or is too tight and dry
-men can have issues there too such as peyronie's disease
-men feel pain often there from other sources such as from a zipper catching it, sitting down on it too
hard and getting extreme pain in the testicles, she will never be feeling this pain because she doesn't have those genitals
In this case, the woman who feels unfaired against can start to feel better by seeking out and finding the unfairnesses for the other side which are in the exact same area, or even a somewhat similar area.
*It is the church's opinion for people to be open about their grievances will help heal the world in this fashion. If one partner is upset and jealous about something for instance, to let them know "That is how I feel when you do that same thing to me!" or "I have issues there too, please let me tell you how bad it is for me as well in that area" may help soothe many relationships and perceived unfairnesses.
2) Create an inequity To Make the Balance and Make it Fair:
Let's say you are a woman in a 100% male dominated society and you feel very angry and as if things are unfair and unhappy. Instead of controlling and trying to change the other men and women who like male dominant relationships, you could CREATE the equal and opposite INEQUITY, by having a female dominant relationship. You could endorse your view and lifestyle and help others who felt like you do, to be part of it as well.
Now you have created an inequity (an unfair one sided relationship) which balances out the other unequal relationships; so now things are in balance, and
now things are fair.
The Church believes in fairness, that it exists. Where fairness does not exist in balance, the Church explores the idea of creating more inequities to balance out previously one sided or imbalanced inequities. Sometimes, we can find fairness in evenly balanced unfairnesses, thereby creating fairness without controlling or stopping others.
For instance:
If Jimmy gets a sno-cone one day and Alice doesn't, this is unfair.
But, If Alice gets a sno-cone two days later and Jimmy doesn't, this new unfairness now balances out the first unfairness and creates fairness through the addition of an inequity, without having to stop Jimmy from eating his sno-cone or telling him he is bad.
However, the Church also believes that far less is actually unfair than was previously thought, and education, such as learning about the other side's distresses, may bring a sense of peace to people who are engaged in hatred and jealousy over perceived inequities.
Many people are angry because they feel ways in which they were born, are unfair, such as being handicapped or ugly.
Not all ugly is bad. Not all pretty is good.
For instance:
One might enjoy the sight of an ugly dog. This ugly is not bad to the viewer.
One might feel pain or simply not enjoy the sight of something pretty, or one who is pretty may do something to you that is rotten. Not all pretty is good.
Because we have developed ideas that only certain things are good or bad, we may perceive things as being unfair.
For instance, one might say "But why did God/ess create ugliness, or put me in a wheel chair? I hate God/ess"
However, being ugly may be good to someone. It may have many advantages. An uglier person may garner less jealousy and be more well liked. They may not focus on their looks as much, and be able to enjoy a better life by concentrating on enjoying things other than their own nose.
Someone in a wheelchair might enjoy a different slower pace of life than people busily rushing around bumping into each other on the street with no caring for each other, and might garner someone with sympathy for them which brings them more love than other people get (These are hypothetical situations to show that we can't just judge perceived unfairness's without knowing an individual's situation).
Being blind, one might have no pain over body image, and may enjoy touch, smell, and other sense more than sighted people who feel pure agony over themselves. Someone who is deaf may feel pleasure in vibrations of the ground and world around them that a hearing person can't even sense. One silly but true thing is, deaf people never have to feel embarrassed about passing loud gas, because no one can hear the fart!
So, one can't say someone should stay stuck in their situation if they don't want to be in it, but at the same time, no one can judge or say for sure, which people have a better quality of life or more happiness. The Church sees that there are pros and cons to every life.
The Church also believes that, during eternity, we may experience many different sensations and ways of being alive, with different senses or bodies being possible. Therefore, the Church hopes that people will learn to enjoy the bodies they are in now, with all of the perks of that experience.
Also, the Church believes it is each person's responsibility to do with their own situation as they wish to feel better. In other words, if a blind person wishes to attempt to see, but another blind person stands up for having a life without sight, both stances are equally acceptable. If a person decides to enjoy life being ugly whereas another person decides to have cosmetic surgery, both ways are acceptable as the individual's right to choose their own path to their own personal happiness.
DEALING WITH UNFAIRNESS
There are at least four ways to deal with unfairness, whether perceived or real unfairness. These methods may also be used to deal with someone who VIOLATES YOUR BOUNDARIES (this means, they do not respect your wishes for yourself or those you love). Perhaps they have done something harmful.
You can:
1) Turn the other cheek - you may decide that they are not worth your precious life time, and that obtaining your own success, healing, or other happiness is more worth your time, or, you may just not wish to be involved in the harm any longer, nor perpetuate any possible future or further harm. You life may become an example, and you might lead others out of the situation, and away from the battle, ultimately ending your enemy's victory (which is to ruin your life), if you choose this method.
2) You can give them what they give (eye for an eye) - sometimes, this is the only way someone will learn, and you may decide it is worth ruining your precious life time to ensure this offender gets the lesson. However, beware that sometimes, people still don't even care or learn, even when you give them exactly what they gave you.
3) See through the action - in some cases, you can actually SEE THROUGH the action to the other person's side, and work to not only understand them, but to come up with a solution that leaves both sides as happy as possible. This solution will only work if BOTH sides are willing to come to the table and work on a solution, drop the fight, and possibly even compromise a little. One might see that anger is actually hurt, in a certain situation, or that the person isn't getting what they want, so you can start to see what THEY are perceiving as unfair, and address that situation somehow perhaps with communication, education, or other.
4) Seek and or create balance - sometimes things ARE fair even when they don's seem to be! Search for how the other side has got problems often in the same exact area you are upset about. IF it isn't there, perhaps you can create an unfairness in that area that works in your favor to create "balance."
Here are two examples of that:
1) Seek and find how the other side has got problems in the same area:
a woman feels jealous that men don't have pain during sex, when she has a lot of it, and did during de-virginizing too. She is very upset until she realizes that:
-men can have pain during sex if the woman twists wrong or is too tight and dry
-men can have issues there too such as peyronie's disease
-men feel pain often there from other sources such as from a zipper catching it, sitting down on it too
hard and getting extreme pain in the testicles, she will never be feeling this pain because she doesn't have those genitals
In this case, the woman who feels unfaired against can start to feel better by seeking out and finding the unfairnesses for the other side which are in the exact same area, or even a somewhat similar area.
*It is the church's opinion for people to be open about their grievances will help heal the world in this fashion. If one partner is upset and jealous about something for instance, to let them know "That is how I feel when you do that same thing to me!" or "I have issues there too, please let me tell you how bad it is for me as well in that area" may help soothe many relationships and perceived unfairnesses.
2) Create an inequity To Make the Balance and Make it Fair:
Let's say you are a woman in a 100% male dominated society and you feel very angry and as if things are unfair and unhappy. Instead of controlling and trying to change the other men and women who like male dominant relationships, you could CREATE the equal and opposite INEQUITY, by having a female dominant relationship. You could endorse your view and lifestyle and help others who felt like you do, to be part of it as well.
Now you have created an inequity (an unfair one sided relationship) which balances out the other unequal relationships; so now things are in balance, and
now things are fair.
Snakes of Balance
with Reflection Of Other Side